Guys, do you ever remember one of your friends telling you that story about that one time at band camp, when your make sent a picture of his todger to a random girl and she was so impressed she swooned over him with desire, demanding a private viewing? You don’t? Me neither!
Yet for some reason, lots of men on dating sites do this kind of stuff. Why? Well, there is a logical but flawed reason why some men do this, I will explain.
I remember coming across an article about a woman that so fed up by this kind of behaviour from men that she decided she would get revenge, and let men know what it felt like to receive unsolicited genital pictures. Much to her surprise, the men she sent the pictures to were not quite so disgusted. Actually, this woman and the men that send dick pics are making the same mistake. They were expecting the opposite sex to behave the same way that they would.
I know this is a very controversial thing to say in current year, but actually, men and women think differently when it comes to dating. I know, crazy isn’t it. It must be that evil patriarchy at work.
Men are much more visual when it comes to their attraction. Subconsciously our brains are wired to look for clues as to the fertility of women, and women know this, even if they don’t realise they do. Why do you think that women’s fashion and beauty is worth so much more as an industry compared to men’s? Just go into any department store and compare the size of the women’s clothing section to men’s and you will see for yourself!
For our mammalian ancestors, that shaped the cortex of our brains responsible for our automatic thinking, males had to take any opportunity they could to mate. More sex meant more chance of passing on his genes to surviving offspring. That is not the case for females, as pregnancy takes a lot of energy and vulnerability, so a female mammal’s best chances are to make sure her offspring survive, with the best genes available. We may think that our world has changed and that women and men are very different now, but actually we are still led by the same survival instincts that have served us well for millennia, even if we have layers of additional nuance and sophistication over the top. Twice as many women reproduce as men.
A woman is much more likely to be impressed by a well dressed man with nice shoes, a good figure and nice teeth. All signs he is resourceful, strong, and capable of providing for his offspring. Unsolicited dick pics are only going to result in disgust. As with everything, there will be women that are the exception to the rule, and women enjoy a bit of bedroom (or kitchen top for that matter) action as much as men do, but you’re not going to make her knees tremble if that’s your first move so just don’t do it.
You need to flirt with her, appearing aloof and uninterested is going to stand out far more than your little man standing up. Tease her, build up the sexual tension and anticipation. Show her confidence, but not arrogance, masculine strength, and then if you’re lucky, she will be pussy putty in your hands.
